Coitus reservatus (coitus, "sexual intercourse, union" + reservatus, "reserved, saved") , is commonly thought of as a form of sexual intercourse in which the man does not attempt to ejaculate within his partner, but instead attempts to remain at the plateau phase of intercourse for as long as possible avoiding the orgasm and seminal emission (however, as in prepuberty, a man may achieve orgasm without any seminal emission, known as a dry orgasm). Another term used for this kind of relationship is the word karezza. Importantly, Dr.

Alice Bunker Stockham's contribution was to apply this same philosophy to women as much as to men. It may be construed as a form of birth control but it is really a way of prolonging sexual pleasure to the point of achieving mystical ecstasis, as explained by J. William Lloyd, a practitioner of Karezza, whose own experience of Cosmic Consciousness appears in the magnum opus Cosmic Consciousness by the American psychiatrist Richard M.

Bucke M. D., an intimate friend of the American poet Walt Whitman. In fact, the goal of this practice is to enable the man to actually separate orgasm from ejaculation, being able to experience one without the other. Some would even go as far as turning it into a Gay Science.

Presumably, the principles of karezza also apply to masturbation, whereby a man attempts to delay his ejaculation as long as possible to prolong pleasure in a process known as "orgasmic brinkmanship" or "edging." This precludes masturbation as an exclusive act, an end in itself. Its cornerstone is a couple who are willing to undergo the discipline of coitus sine ejaculatio seminis. The primary purpose of karezza is the maintenance, and indeed, intensification of desire and enjoyment of sexual pleasure within the context of long-term relationships.

According to Stockham, it takes from two weeks to a month for the body to recover from ejaculation ..."Unless procreation is desired, let the final propagative orgasm be entirely avoided". If ejaculation is experienced more frequently, the effect is to 'drain the basin' before it has been replenished. This, in turn, induces feelings of irritation and rejection of the lover, as the body seeks to prevent further ejaculation.

However, and arguably especially in modern Western culture where 'more is better', people often pursue orgasms, and therefore, ejaculation as a way of trying to overcome those feelings, thus compounding the problem. The result is that over time (reportedly within two to four years), the 'honeymoon of desire' is over, leading to substantial change in the nature of the relationship. Stockham's advocacy was that this same 'honeymoon period' could be maintained in perpetuity by limiting the frequency of ejaculation or preferably avoiding it entirely.

Stockham writes: "Man, too, expresses creative life in many ways besides that of parenthood". Once lovemaking is no longer undertaken as a means to orgasm, Stockham suggested, the nature and purpose of lovemaking changes dramatically, being focused on communication and physical communion. She writes, "The time and frequency of Karezza can be governed by no certain law.

Experience, however, has proven that is far more satisfactory to have at least an interval of two to four weeks, and may find that even three or four months afford greater impetus to power and growth as well as more personal satisfaction; during the interval the thousand and one lover-like attentions give reciprocal delight, and are an anticipating prophecy of the ultimate union."

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